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Normalize Imperfections in Motherhood

There is unexplainable beauty and joy in motherhood as well as many learning curves and unthinkable experiences. Unfortunately, when focusing on media and looking into the lives of celebrities and influencers this would make people think that being a mom is a perfect journey and I believe that’s why so many mothers struggle today. The good is always glamorized but the fight is never revealed. This could make some moms wonder what they’re doing wrong and why they can't seem to get things right as they view motherhood from an unrealistic lens. It’s time to be transparent about motherhood and allow moms to freely express their experiences around one of the biggest transitions and transformations of their lives. No woman should have to suffer in silence because they believe their experiences aren’t normal or that others somehow have it better than them.  

The cries and not knowing what’s wrong and how to fix the situation, that's normal. The hurts that come from knowing at instances there’s nothing you can do to help your child when they're sick or going through, that's normal. The tantrums, the late nights, tears and I’m not just taking about the babies tears, that's normal. The wondering if life would ever be the same as before, that's normal. The boarder line disrespect and disrespect as they grow through their teenage years because they think they have life all figured out, that's normal. The not wanting your child(ren) to grow up and leave home, that's normal. The fears that come with being a parent and wondering if you've done all that you could, that's normal. Wanting
It's all normal.

Being a first time mom I see the importance of community and like minded individuals throughout my journey. Not people who are judgmental and think their way of parenting is the only way. Not those with outdated parenting tips, skills and mindsets. Not those who are disrespectful in their approach critiquing your parenting because you went a different route. I'm talking about those who are loving, compassionate and understand of the ups and downs of parenting. Those who are supportive and give you space to grow and develop your parenting style. Those who understand the generational curses you're trying to break to ensure your child(ren) are raised in a loving and positive environment. Those who understand that you don't always have to be strong and that mistakes are made along the way. I believe so many women are battling and trying to make the experiences their having more bearable because they feel alone 


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